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Menopause Marriage and Motherhood – Women’s Issues. Every woman will experience at least one of those things but all of us experience life through a female lens. And midlife, with its physical, emotional and lifestyle changes, often demands that we take stock of our lives and look at everything in different ways. Join me, Karen O’Connor, and my guests each week as we take an in-depth look topics close to home such as health, families, finances and our changing relationships, to wider issues such as women’s rights, equality and stress in the workplace. If you’ve asked the question or thought about something to do with life after 50, you’ll hopefully find a podcast about it here. And if you don’t, message me because it’ll probably be a great topic to cover! Subscribe to the podcast so you don’t miss a single thought provoking episode: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/email
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We've probably all heard the term "carbon footprint" but how many of us know what our carbon footprint is, why it matters and what we can do about it?
And minimising or negating our carbon footprint goes way beyond planting a few trees.
And minimising or negating our carbon footprint goes way beyond planting a few trees.
Carbon footprint refers to the total amount of greenhouse gases, primarily carbon dioxide, emitted by an individual, organisation, or community over a specific period. All creatures on earth have a carbon footprint, i.e. they produce carbon in many forms, and our atmosphere is designed to deal with that. What we're producing these days is way beyond nature's capacity to manage.
You don't have to be an "eco-warrior" or live off the grid to reduce the impact that your life or business has on the planet or even to support the planet positively. There are a few easy things that we can all do as businesses and individuals that can make a big difference.
Accredited carbon specialist, Richie Mulder from Carbonhalo, talks to us about how we can all make a huge difference to our community as well as the planet.
You don't have to be an "eco-warrior" or live off the grid to reduce the impact that your life or business has on the planet or even to support the planet positively. There are a few easy things that we can all do as businesses and individuals that can make a big difference.
Accredited carbon specialist, Richie Mulder from Carbonhalo, talks to us about how we can all make a huge difference to our community as well as the planet.
Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep209
Wednesday Sep 20, 2023
Wednesday Sep 20, 2023
In most Western countries, there's no requirement for GPs to have any knowledge of menopause and the complications it can cause. Indeed, in Australia, until recently, any study of Menopause was an optional extra in a medical degree even though 50% of women will suffer symptoms that impact their lives.
A group of women have launched a petition to send to the government to request that keeping up to date with the latest research on menopause becomes compulsory for all GPs
A group of women have launched a petition to send to the government to request that keeping up to date with the latest research on menopause becomes compulsory for all GPs
You're at work, in a meeting or giving a presentation to a room full of people and suddenly you have no idea what you were going to say, it's completely gone.
You work in a scientific or high tech environment which involves technical terms that you've been familiar with for your entire life but suddenly you can't remember the terms or what they mean.
You're picking your kids up from school and you go over to one of your child's friend's mothers, but you can't remember the child's name even though they've been to your house on multiple occasions.
Sound familiar? When that happens to us, our first thought is probably "I've got early onset dementia!" So we get stressed out and anxious and we start noticing how many times this happens to us and it begins to happen more and more frequently until we feel like we're unable to function properly, so we quit our jobs because we don't feel like we're capable of holding that position any more.
We go to our GP and they probably give us sleeping tablets and SSRI's. They might say to us, "It's probably menopause, you'll be okay in a few years". Years! What do we do in the meantime? We don't feel that we can function, so we get onto social media and, if we feel confident enough, join a few groups and discover that so many other women are experiencing this yet our doctors told us nothing about it.
Join me in conversation with Julia Browne, co-founder of Peri-Pausers, a group determined to bring this lack of support and information to the attention of the government.
You work in a scientific or high tech environment which involves technical terms that you've been familiar with for your entire life but suddenly you can't remember the terms or what they mean.
You're picking your kids up from school and you go over to one of your child's friend's mothers, but you can't remember the child's name even though they've been to your house on multiple occasions.
Sound familiar? When that happens to us, our first thought is probably "I've got early onset dementia!" So we get stressed out and anxious and we start noticing how many times this happens to us and it begins to happen more and more frequently until we feel like we're unable to function properly, so we quit our jobs because we don't feel like we're capable of holding that position any more.
We go to our GP and they probably give us sleeping tablets and SSRI's. They might say to us, "It's probably menopause, you'll be okay in a few years". Years! What do we do in the meantime? We don't feel that we can function, so we get onto social media and, if we feel confident enough, join a few groups and discover that so many other women are experiencing this yet our doctors told us nothing about it.
Join me in conversation with Julia Browne, co-founder of Peri-Pausers, a group determined to bring this lack of support and information to the attention of the government.
Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep209
Wednesday Sep 13, 2023
Wednesday Sep 13, 2023
The average separation/divorce takes three years to complete and 70% of people leave the relationship emotionally two years before they leave the relationship physically. Yet very few of us spend that time thinking about how the process will go and what they want the future to look like.
How much easier would the process be if we could map the whole thing out and really think about all the possible variations of who gets what, who does what and when, how we're going to respond when our partner does why, what are our triggers?
How much easier would the process be if we could map the whole thing out and really think about all the possible variations of who gets what, who does what and when, how we're going to respond when our partner does why, what are our triggers?
Separating is up there are one of the top three most stressful events in anyone's lives and there are whole stages of grief, anger, resentment, fear, upset, excitement, the whole kit and caboodle of emotions to go through. Yet many of us go through it alone for various good - and not so good - reasons.
While it's important to have supportive friends and family around us, we also need experts and professionals on our team too, people who can be relied upon to give objective, honest advice and feedback because while friends and family are great, they may not be the most detached people in this whole thing!
After experiencing her own traumatic separation and divorce, making a lot of mistakes and finishing with a lot of regrets, Bridgette Jackson now supports other people going through the same experience to hopefully come out the other end in the best frame of mind and feeling as good about everything as they possibly can.
Whether you're in a happy relationship yourself or not, this kind of information is important to know because we all know someone who needs this support.
While it's important to have supportive friends and family around us, we also need experts and professionals on our team too, people who can be relied upon to give objective, honest advice and feedback because while friends and family are great, they may not be the most detached people in this whole thing!
After experiencing her own traumatic separation and divorce, making a lot of mistakes and finishing with a lot of regrets, Bridgette Jackson now supports other people going through the same experience to hopefully come out the other end in the best frame of mind and feeling as good about everything as they possibly can.
Whether you're in a happy relationship yourself or not, this kind of information is important to know because we all know someone who needs this support.
Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep199
Wednesday Sep 06, 2023
Wednesday Sep 06, 2023
When we're feeling anxious or depressed, we often feel very alone. When you add wanting to leave your partner into that mix, the helplessness and overwhelm can increase exponentially.
Many of us hide just how unhappy we are with our lives behind facades, to ourselves as well as to everyone else, so even just making enquiries as to the process of separating from our partner can be something that we don't want to discuss with anyone. Should we stay or should we go? What's the process? What's the answer?
Many of us hide just how unhappy we are with our lives behind facades, to ourselves as well as to everyone else, so even just making enquiries as to the process of separating from our partner can be something that we don't want to discuss with anyone. Should we stay or should we go? What's the process? What's the answer?
When Carolyn Tate and her friend, Gillian Moody, found themselves going through separation and divorce, they realised that they were so lucky to have each other there to share the load because the number of new conversations with different people (lawyers, counsellors, teachers, family, friends, partners) that they had to have was overwhelming and downright terrifying. Yet most people who are thinking of separating do all this on their own.
The two friends set out to create a resource where women could go to get all the information they needed to help them through this time in their life. They enrolled the support of solicitors, counsellors, psychologists and other experts and they created groups where women could go to share what was happening in their lives in a safe space without judgement.
The two friends set out to create a resource where women could go to get all the information they needed to help them through this time in their life. They enrolled the support of solicitors, counsellors, psychologists and other experts and they created groups where women could go to share what was happening in their lives in a safe space without judgement.
They called it The Women's Divorce Academy.
Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep198
Wednesday Aug 30, 2023
Wednesday Aug 30, 2023
Ending a long term relationship is difficult enough with all the fears and uncertainties that go with that but the thought of getting back onto the dating scene after a 20- or 30-year relationship can be even more daunting.
We all hear the horror stories of the current dating scene, particularly online dating, and we're already battle scarred from the breakup of our long term relationship so why would we get back into the dating scene and how do we make sure we end up with the relationship that we want and not a repeat of the relationship that we've just come out of?
We all hear the horror stories of the current dating scene, particularly online dating, and we're already battle scarred from the breakup of our long term relationship so why would we get back into the dating scene and how do we make sure we end up with the relationship that we want and not a repeat of the relationship that we've just come out of?
THE most important thing in all of this is to know yourself. We all think we know ourselves but how many of us can truly pinpoint what we want? If you're like me, you know exactly what you don't want but what you do want? That's a different matter. And what was your role in the breakup? What ways of behaving do you have that contributed to your unhappiness? Unless you can recognise what you're doing, you'll probably end up in the same relationship feeling the same way that you did before.
With a host of qualifications around relationships, including Internationally Accredited Dating & Relationship coach, NLP Master Coach, Certified Master mBIT Coach and an Authorised Gottman Seven Principles Leader, Debbie Rivers helps and supports people to get the life and the relationships that they've always dreamed of.
Key points:
With a host of qualifications around relationships, including Internationally Accredited Dating & Relationship coach, NLP Master Coach, Certified Master mBIT Coach and an Authorised Gottman Seven Principles Leader, Debbie Rivers helps and supports people to get the life and the relationships that they've always dreamed of.
Key points:
- 01:22 - If you need to ask how to be happy, there's a big problem
- 01:35 - Why leaving a marriage in never the easy option
- 02:30 - How the fears around dating can get in the way
- 03:46 - Why we believe it's okay to be "just a bit unhappy" in a relationship
- 08:45 - Why staying in a relationship because you have children may not be the best thing to do
- 13:08 - Why many people end up with the same relationship over and over again
- 19:04 - What to do when you don't know what it is you want from a relationship (or life)
- 20:50 - How to find the joy in life
- 26:32 - How to spot your repeat patterns in relationships
- 28:33 - How to figure out if a relationship will work
- 32:44 - How Married At First Sight sets couples up to fail
- 36:42 - The problems with dating as you grow older
- 40:50 - Why dating apps can cause so many problems... and how to overcome that
Join us now and find out what it's like to get back onto the dating scene, how to embrace the process, have fun, and be confident in your worth and what you bring to a potential partnership.
Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep197
Wednesday Aug 23, 2023
Wednesday Aug 23, 2023
What do you do when you find out your partner has cheated on you? Or they've been lying about something? How do you rebuild trust? Can you rebuild trust?
All good relationships are built on some kind of trust and when that's broken by one or both of the parties, it can be almost impossible to overcome. Almost impossible...
All good relationships are built on some kind of trust and when that's broken by one or both of the parties, it can be almost impossible to overcome. Almost impossible...
Dr Deirdre Tozer is a psychologist who specialises in supporting couples going through this kind of pretty much irretrievable breakdown crisis: infidelity (ongoing or one off), lying about money, lying about other things, gambling, constant arguments, all of it.
The difference between Dee and other relationship guidance counsellors is that she has a 90%+ success rate in rebuilding relationships and one of the reasons for that is that she doesn't just sit the couples down together and have them talk through things, she speaks to them individually.
Key points:
The difference between Dee and other relationship guidance counsellors is that she has a 90%+ success rate in rebuilding relationships and one of the reasons for that is that she doesn't just sit the couples down together and have them talk through things, she speaks to them individually.
Key points:
- 00:48 - How Dee's counselling differs from 'normal' relationship counselling
- 06:10 - Creating an Operating System for yourself and your relationship
- 09:57 - The problem with most relationship counselling
- 13:09 - Why there's no 'truth' and why we shouldn't change
- 17:01 - Why people cheat
- 21:55 - The seven different kinds of couples
- 30:35 - The habit of reacting rather than responding
- 33:00 - The problem with trying to sort out your relationship while you're sitting next to each other in the counsellor's office
- 35:50 - Why "the glass on the sink" thing is more than just a comment about putting your dishes in the dishwasher
- 40:55 - Is the saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" true?
Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep196
Wednesday Aug 16, 2023
Wednesday Aug 16, 2023
Reading people is a crucial skill that enhances our understanding of others, fosters empathy, and improves communication. Through observation of facial expressions, body language, and verbal cues, we gain valuable insights into a person's emotions, intentions, and thoughts, often going beyond what they explicitly convey.
Some of us are good at reading people, some of us are maybe not so good but the bottom line is the ability to read people is a crucial skill in all our relationships... if we want them to be successful.
We've all experienced those situations where someone just won't shut up or they don't listen, they cut people off. Maybe you have a partner who, when you try to talk your way through something that's bothering you, interrupts you and tells you how to fix what they think is the problem (and most of the time, they've missed the point!).
In a business situation, the ability to read people will win or lose you sales. In a personal relationship, poor connection, not listening to the other person will put an enormous strain on the relationship.
Alan Stevens is an expert in profiling and reading people and he talks to us about what he does, why this is so important and how we can use it in our daily lives all our relationships, familial, personal and business.
In a business situation, the ability to read people will win or lose you sales. In a personal relationship, poor connection, not listening to the other person will put an enormous strain on the relationship.
Alan Stevens is an expert in profiling and reading people and he talks to us about what he does, why this is so important and how we can use it in our daily lives all our relationships, familial, personal and business.
Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep195
Wednesday Aug 09, 2023
Wednesday Aug 09, 2023
Body image, overeating, bingeing, overexercising, self image, they all go hand in hand. You can't change any of them permanently without getting to the reasons behind the beliefs that cause that behaviour
Self-awareness and understanding one's emotional relationship with food play a pivotal role. Recognising triggers, such as stress, boredom, or emotional eating patterns, allows us to develop healthier coping mechanisms.
But how do we recognise those behaviours?
Self-awareness and understanding one's emotional relationship with food play a pivotal role. Recognising triggers, such as stress, boredom, or emotional eating patterns, allows us to develop healthier coping mechanisms.
But how do we recognise those behaviours?
Dr Kirsty Seward is fascinated by behavioural change, why some of it works, why most of it doesn't and how do we as individuals find what does work for us and then apply it.
This is not your average podcast talking about body image or eating disorders. This is a deep dive into the why's, into how we begin to recognise our behaviours, understand them and how we put new behaviours in place, ones that are more beneficial to us and our goals in life.
Join us now...
This is not your average podcast talking about body image or eating disorders. This is a deep dive into the why's, into how we begin to recognise our behaviours, understand them and how we put new behaviours in place, ones that are more beneficial to us and our goals in life.
Join us now...
Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep192
Wednesday Aug 02, 2023
Wednesday Aug 02, 2023
Leaving a relationship is an emotionally challenging - and charged - decision, but if there's nothing particularly wrong, if the relationship is just a bit meh, how do you justify even going to counselling, never mind separating?
This can be one of the biggest problems: if there's not much wrong, how do you do something about it? If you're not happy but you're also not unhappy, how do you have that conversation with your partner?
It's easy to look at an abusive relationship and say, "You need to leave" but when the relationship is okay, it can be very difficult to explain why it's not working for you to yourself. And it can be even more difficult explaining how we feel to other people.
This can be one of the biggest problems: if there's not much wrong, how do you do something about it? If you're not happy but you're also not unhappy, how do you have that conversation with your partner?
It's easy to look at an abusive relationship and say, "You need to leave" but when the relationship is okay, it can be very difficult to explain why it's not working for you to yourself. And it can be even more difficult explaining how we feel to other people.
Self-awareness can be both a blessing and a curse in this situation because if we are 100% responsible for everything that happens in our lives (this is not about fault or blame, it's about being responsible for our behaviour and reactions to events) then how do we correct something and tell someone else that the relationship isn't working for us and we want to change or end it without causing them no end of pain?
Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep193
Wednesday Jul 26, 2023
Wednesday Jul 26, 2023
We get to certain points in life and struggle to find meaning or purpose for our lives and ourselves any more. Midlife / Menopause is one of them. What do you do when you just don't see the point in what you're doing? When everything is 'meh' and there's no spark in life? Most of us have hit that point where we feel like we're going nowhere and we're just marking the passage of time... and it's not a happy place to be! But it can be very difficult to work out what it is we want from our lives, what we're good at, what we want to do, even who we want to be. Often, we can feel like we're groping in the dark with little hope of finding what it is we want to know, partly because we don't really know what it is we want. Pip McKay supports people to find their purpose in life and reignite their passion in all areas of life from money to career to relationships, and one way she does this is through the use of Archetype. Archetypes can serve as a powerful guide as we're looking for our purpose in life. It allows us to focus on figuring out what it is we love, what it is sparks joy in us, rather than the usual focusing on what we want to do. It means that we're open to doing many more things because we're looking at them from the space of whether that job or relationship or whatever will satusfy us at a much deeper level. Join us for this conversation and then register for Pip's FREE one day program on Saturday 29th July 22 Principles of Success, Love and Happiness. You will discover the secrets of achievement while having fantastic relationships and incredible well-being Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep192